While passing is not an all or nothing game, not everyone passes as soon as they start socially or medically transitioning. It's okay for it to take time and for you to choose the pace of your transition.
There is no such thing as a standard dose of T.
Your dose of T is based off of your lab work. Your provider knows what testosterone levels are safe for you but you can always talk to them about adjusting your dose.
“Stealth” isn’t an all or nothing.
Some people can be out to friends while they are stealth at work or at home. You are not being deceptive by not being out to the world. Your safety comes before anything else.
You can change your name again.
You may find a name that fits better after you thought you had one. Not everyone will be patient with you always changing your name but finding a name that you find fits you is important.
Your body fat does not shift.
Starting testosterone is great. You build muscle. The downside you also gain more fat. Your body fat shifts around a bit but ultimately you gain more weight. This is normal though you will now need to work harder to manage your weight. Just check with your medical provider to make sure you are staying healthy.
It's unfortunate, but it doesn't happen to everyone. For those that it does happen to, you don't really have much you can do except keep it trimmed or leave it alone.
There is nothing wrong with detransitioning.
There is a stigma in the world about detransitioning. That it's wrong or that you transitioned for the attention. Some may say that transitioning was a phase or that you were lying. This is simply untrue and it is a stereotype we should break down. Not everyone can afford nor wants to stay on hormones for their entire lives. Transitioning is a personal experience, gender is not static and therefore your transition should not need to be a static or linear one either.