This is a guide. There is no right or wrong way to be masculine. This is just what society views as masculine.
Wear clothes that fit your body type.
Everyone’s bodies are different in shapes and sizes, follow your own shape. Although shopping can be a very anxious and stressful time, it can also be a great moment in finding your style. Take a supportive friend that can work with you and make the experience more pleasant, pick out a bunch of styles, try them on, see how they look. Keep in mind that depending on the store, brands, or region you’re in that some clothes fit differently so you may end up with more baggy or tight options. Another point to keep in mind is traditionally jeans or pants will probably be one of the most difficult parts of the shopping experience, so take a deep breath and try all the styles to find which best fits you.
Flatten your chest
Don't use binders to create a perfectly flat chest.
Guys aren't board flat. After puberty they all look different some are leaner and others are more bulky. The thinner and leaner the more flat chested by they still have some pectoral definition. The bulkier the more slant they have. Go for what fits your build rather than binding to the point of damaging yourself.
A masculine haircut doesn’t mean super short or army cut. Guys have more recently been playing with the looks of different lengths of hair so don't feel pressured to shave your head. Go to a barbershop and show them pictures of masculine haircuts you like. Most trans guys need hair to pass. Your hair is yours to express with and it will grow back if you let it.
Practice deepening your voice
While there is an app called Eva FTM for training your voice, it has become quite costly. A great resource that isn’t thought of right away is our good friend, YouTube! Look up vocal exercises for tenor, baritone, or bass voices. You can always practice singing or matching other deeper voices with your own and if practiced regularly, your voice will naturally be able to deepen. There are also lots of humming exercises that help train your voice before or after testosterone.
Work on your mannerisms
Typically, men have more heavy, boxy, and constrained mannerisms. Really anything that looks more fluid and graceful is almost certain to be viewed as feminine. Notice when someone masculine is walking their body seems stiff and almost locked. That’s because they’re walking with their legs spread out with their toes pointed outward, they are not leading with their hips.
Practice walking, hand gestures, the inflection of your voice, the way you sit and stand. Men will spread out more, stand tall and confident, walk with confidence and purpose. Watch videos or movies and watch male characters and decide what attributes you like and make them your own.
Facial hair can immediately masculinize any face. You can shave your face or add mascara to the areas that have peach fuzz, just be sure not to go heavy handed and fill in lightly. Practice with it until you feel comfortable.
I know it might seem like make-up is gendered, but it’s only marketed that way. Make-up is for anyone and everyone and can help put those final touches on transforming your outer shell to feel more like those beautiful gooey insides. There are very few tutorials on masculine makeup, but there are some out there. Remember the first section about body types? There are also different facial types, shapes, and structures. Create new shapes that help make your face look more angular and chiseled. Masculine faces look more defined and structured that are also very flat looking.
If you have bottom dysphoria you can always pack, but know that even packing can create more dysphoria. Try stuffing first to see if you even feel comfortable with a new area of your body having shape. If you are looking for tips on packing, look here.
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