While passing is not an all or nothing game, not everyone passes as soon as they start socially or medically transitioning. It's okay for it to take time and for you to choose the pace of your transition. Passing does not always need to be the end goal.
There is no such thing as a standard dose of estrogen.
Your dose of estrogen is based off of your lab work. Your provider knows what estrogen levels are safe for you, but you can always talk to them about adjusting your dose.
“Stealth” isn’t an all or nothing.
Some people can be out to friends while they are stealth at work or at home. You are not being deceptive by not being out to the world. Your safety comes before anything else.
You can change your name again.
You may find a name that fits better after you thought you had one. Not everyone will be patient with you always changing your name but finding a name that you find fits you is important.
Your body fat does shift.
Starting estrogen is great. You gain more curves. You lose more fat. Your body fat shifts around a bit. Just check with your medical provider to make sure you are staying healthy.
There is nothing wrong with detransitioning.
There is a stigma in the world about detransitioning. That it's wrong or that you transitioned for the attention. Some may say that transitioning was a phase or that you were lying. This is simply untrue and it is a stereotype we should break down. Not everyone can afford nor wants to stay on hormones for their entire lives. Transitioning is a personal experience, gender is not static and therefore your transition should not need to be a static or linear one either.
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